Eros: Creative Hunger

Harnessing erotic wildness to fuel purpose, presence, and pleasure

Eros is life force. It’s the animating pulse behind everything we touch, create, and crave. That might sound woo, but desire in all its forms moves the world. And at its core, we’re all here because of sex.

For most of my life, that connection leaked in impulsive, disorganized ways. Early sexualization warped my relationship to Eros. No longer a vibrant current, it was held hostage by shame, confusion, secrecy. You can probably imagine what that looked like.

But I was hungry for sovereignty in my own body. So I got curious. Not just about sex, but about the energy underneath it. What is this wild force that grips me, moves me, scatters me?

Eventually, I learned how the brain works. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy helped me understand how impulsivity erodes the prefrontal cortex—how the space between urge and action is where power lives. I started rehearsing new scripts. I trained that pause.

And in that pause, I met Eros.

Strip sex from sex drive, and what you’re left with is drive itself. And that’s what Eros truly is: creative hunger.

Eros isn’t just about sex. It’s about aliveness. It’s not an idea, it’s a sensation. You feel it in your breath, your fingertips, the sharp inhale when truth lands in your body. It’s the heat that rises when inspiration hits. The tension you feel when something matters. The ache of longing that says, There’s more to give. More to feel. It’s the pulse in my hands when I shape dough, and the way I lean in when someone I care about speaks.

Most men are starving for Eros and don’t even know it. They think they need more discipline, more sex, more drive. But what they really need is to channel the erotic to work for them, instead of leaking it

That’s what this work is. Reclaiming Eros as our inner fire—and alchemizing it into full-bodied presence, purpose, and pleasure.